Monday, September 29, 2008

Roger

I have been debating in my head if I should or shouldn't write the following post. My heart is full and so I feel like I have to write some things down so that I remember them. My dear friend Roger Coltharp passed away earlier today-suddenly from a heartattack. A friend of mine in Utah called me with the news. I still can't really wrap my mind around the fact that he is gone, it breaks my heart.

Roger was one of my closest friends and a wonderful friend to our family. I first met Roger in January of 2004 when I began teaching biology labs at UVSC. He was such a caring and happy man-a wonderful example to me. He used to take me out to breakfast when I had the dreaded 7am lab-I only say dreaded because for me it was soooo early but for him he was already at work (usually by 6am)ready to start the day-with a smile no less. When I didn't go to breakfast with him he would always bring me back a piece of bacon and share his food with me-even if I really didn't plan on eating. When I was pregnant with Dallin, Roger was probably the first person I told-besides Scott. I didn't know how I would feel those first months so I felt like I should tell him in case I was too ill to teach the lab. He took care of me during those first few months when I was nauseated-teaching me where the big bean bags were in the student center so that I could lie down and rest. He would then come back by and wake me up or at least make sure I was awake for my next lab. Him and his wife Karla were probably the first people to visit us in the hospital (beside family members) when Dallin was born. And Dallin just loves him! He would always get so excited when we were going to Roger's house or if Roger came by the office.

Roger was responsible for getting me the biology lab manager position. I remember him telling me that he had set it up so that they (UVSC) would have to hire me-and it worked out. We switched positions-I worked full time and he picked up the Adjunct load. We spent a lot of time together that first semester-him teaching me how to prep the labs, on his own time, he received no extra money for helping me, he simply did it because it was his nature to be a good friend. It was Roger and Karla's patience and hard work that allowed us to buy a town home in Provo. They also were always so generous to our family and to the "family at UVSC". They would invite us over for bbq meals-not hot dogs and hamburgers, oh no, we are talking steak and chicken and potatoes with bacon in them. When I got pregnant with Evan and once I had him, Roger told me not to worry about his lab, that he would just prep his own lab and get his own material. He made my job easy. He also was one of the first visitors we had when Evan was born. He met both of my boys when they were only days old.

Roger was one of my best friends. I looked up to him and admired his happy attitude and his generosity to others. We would sit for hours and just talk, telling stories and the things that were going on in our lives. He loved our little family so much...for that I will be eternally grateful. I remember that when we were moving from Provo things were so crazy-the move, house selling, house buying, training a new lab manager that I didn't get to really say goodbye to Roger. So the day we were leaving I called him on the phone and all I could tell him was "you and your family have been a blessing in our family's life..." and then I began to cry. I told him I couldn't talk to him anymore (because I was crying) and I handed the phone to Scott. A few days later he called me and we chatted like old times. I will miss my dear friend Roger, he touched my life in so many wonderful ways. My love and thoughts turn to his wonderful family, I pray for them in this time of sorrow. I am so grateful for the gospel and the plan of salvation that tells me that I will see Roger again. Thank you Roger for your friendship and your love-you will be greatly missed.

Sunday, September 28, 2008

Evan's 1st Birthday-the cake eating!


So as I mentioned in the previous post, Evan's 1st b-day was September 17th, but we did the "party" (as much as you can for a 1 year old) on Saturday September 20th! It is so funny to watch the second child dive into his birthday cake...I remember Dallin's 1st birthday-he was super sleepy, in fact he fell asleep and we woke him up to have cake. He was so timid about eating the cake, probably since it was only the second time he had ever had cake (the first time Aunt Tera gave him so cake from Uncle Jim's 50th b-day), so it took a bit of coaxing to get him to eat. Now, let's contrast Evan's experience with his personal cake...he had abosolutely no problems digging right in, let's just say that sweets are no stranger to this boy. It just cracks me up how different parenting is the second time around! As you can tell by the slide show, he had no problem eating the cake, it thought it was super yummy! I thought I might as well show you all the pic's-what a mess, but so much fun! We also celebrated Grandma Marian's 75th birthday that night with a cake as well! It was a wonderful evening surrounded by loved ones!!!

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Happy Birthday Evan!





Today is Evan's first birthday-can you believe it??? There are so many things going through my mind right now as I look at pictures of him as a newborn and think back to the "birth" day. Evan is our miracle baby. He decided that he wanted to enter this world feet first...which was a bit scary, but fortunately we had wonderful doctors, nurses and a respiratory team to welcome him here. Evan was born at 3:26am,less than an hour after we reached the hospital. The week before his birth, we found out that he was breach and that I would most likely have a c-section. Well, he was so eager to get to our family that he came about a week early. Now looking back it all seems like such a blurr, a whirlwind of events filled with emotions of every kind. He gave a us quite a scare at first, but thanks to the power of the priesthood, he was given a blessing by his dad and Uncle Jim which the pediatrician claimed was a miracle. He was 9lbs 1 oz and about 21 inches long. I didn't realize how big he was until people where commenting on his size from the pictures I had sent. And those dimples, need I say more. He is an amazing little boy whom we love with all of our hearts. He is such a happy baby-so good natured. Don't get me wrong he is starting to show signs of a temper, but he is such a happy boy. He is now crawling and standing in one place, we imagine he will be running in no time at all (we have a bet, Scott says a week from today, I say two weeks from today-I will keep you posted). I can't imagine what walking will bring-he is already everywhere and into everything-we call him troublemaker!


I feel so blessed to have this little boy here in our home. When I think back to his birth or watch the videos I realize how truly lucky we were to have a great doctor and to have a great pediatrician. It was a scary time, but through it all Scott was my rock-he was so calm and sure, which helped me out tremendously. I remember that when Evan was born I didn't hear anything-no crys, no noises etc. and I knew that something was wrong. I remember clearly Scott telling me that everything was going to be okay, and then he began to pray-and as soon as he began his prayer the baby starting breathing. I am so grateful for a faithful strong husband.


Looking a the videos it is so cute to see Dallin-I wonder what it must have been like for him to come to the hospital and see this new baby. He has been a great big brother-he is always kind to Evan and makes sure that I never leave him or leave him out (i.e. Mommy: Dallin are you going to the movies with daddy? Dallin: Yes, but I want mommy and evan to come too!). He is the best big brother who makes Evan laugh like no one else can. What a blessing to have such a wonderful family!!! Happy Birthday Evan!! We love you more than words can describe! We plan on celebrating Evan's b-day on Saturday. Grandma Marian flew in today and Grandma Perry and Great-Grandma Perry are coming Friday, so we will have presents and cake then!!! What wonderful support of our little one-even the cousins called today, how cute is that!! What a blessing!!


Happy birthday my sweet boy, mommy loves you so much. Thank you for bringing such joy to our life!!!

Sunday, September 14, 2008

Goodbye Jeep, Hello New Addition!

Well, after 8 long years in my company, it is time to say goodbye to the Jeep. Since we officially moved into our home here in Chula Vista the Jeep has been suffering. There were problems with the clutch and so it would make a terrible screetching noise whenever you would shift-especially out of 1st and 2nd gear. We ran it like this for a long time-which was quite embarassing, but we really didn't want to have to get a new car. But, alas the time has come, the Jeep has now been sold (well the man is coming tomorrow to pick it up to take to his brother in Mexico-it is like a foreign exchange program for the Jeep-it like it's owners must have a love for new adventures). So it is bittersweet the situation we find ourselves in, I am deeply saddened to see the Jeep go-it was my first car and I remember feeling a sense of accomplishment when we paid it off, but it just wasn't worth it for us to keep putting money into it, so we have to let it go! Here is an short ode to the Jeep:

Oh my dear sweet Jeep,
You were not cheap,
But you were always a blast
Although you didn't go fast
It really was fun till the last!



And now, a drum roll please....Please welcome the newest addition to our family:
A 2004 Honda Pilot!



As many of you know, we have been looking at Pilots for about a year and a half, so to have one outside in the Parking lot is a bit shocking. We feel very blest to have found a great car at such a great deal!! Here is to many more happy road trips (plus it seats 8, so you are more than welcome to join us)


So, here is a pic of the new and the old side by side...life sure changes!


(I love that Dallins' funny face is in the corner of this pic-it cracks me up! See, life is good!) Goodnight!

Sunday, September 7, 2008

Grateful!


I just wanted to write a quick note about how grateful I am for life and especially for my life. I have truly been blessed-I have a wonderful husband, and two wonderful children. I have the awesome and most of the time crazy responsibility of raising these boys, which at times isn't the easiest thing to do ( I am not always the nicest or most patient mommy or wife), but I do love it. I love when we are sitting on the ground and the boys both climb on me, or how the other day we were in the pool just laughing and enjoying the sunshine, these are the moments I treasure. I feel very blessed to have a hard working husband who gets up way too early and works all day so that I can stay at home with the boys-what a blessing! I have been blessed with a wonderful family (Perry's and the Samson side) who I love. I love that they take interest in our lives and that they take the time to visit us and call. I appreciate the things that they sacrifice for us and for the prayers they offer on our behalf. I too appreciate the friends we have and the friendships we are creating here in Chula Vista. I am so grateful for my ward family here in Chula Vista, I feel very blessed to be here and to be surrounded by such wonderful families (especially the sisters who I get to hang out with).

Here are some of my blessings:




So what has brought on this sappy post-several things. For example, playing v-ball last night with friends from the ward and feeling like I have been truly blessed moving here. I remember when we moved to Provo shortly after we were married and I was so lonely, all I wanted was friendship. Poor Scott had to deal with his slightly depressed newlywed wife! So in some ways I was nervous about moving here, but we have been nothing but blessed with good friendships. Other things that have brought about this post-hardships faced by friends and strangers. I mourn with those that mourn. It sorrows me that so many friends and acquaintances I know are unable to have children when I can-especially when I feel so inadequate to have them. I see these wonderful woman who want nothing more than to be a mother or to have more children and at this time can't. They are some of the most valiant women I know and look up too and to see them suffer saddens me. Other people have family members that are suffering. Illness, cancer,family problems etc. I am not sure how many of you have heard anything about the Nielson family in Arizona who were in a terrible plane accident (this is the blog of the sister in Utah who is watching their 4 young children) http://blog.cjanerun.com/ (this is the actual blog of the woman who was in the accident)http://nieniedialogues.blogspot.com/, (you can read about their story and about the amazing things that people are doing to help them at these blog sites). But again, it just really makes me look at my life and realize that there are far worse things going on in other peoples lives than my feelings of inadequacy. Life is beautiful and like I learned today in Relief Society, Heavenly Father knows each of us individually and He wants us to be happy. Sometimes it takes the tragedies of life to remind us of all the blessings we truly have. Life is beautiful and I am grateful for mine and I am grateful for the family and friends who add to our beautiful life!